The Aftergrief Online Program:

a 4-week, LIVE experience with Hope Edelman

DATES: First four Sundays in November (11/1, 11/8, 11/15, 11/22)

TIME: 4 pm PST / 7 pm EST for 90 minutes

Hello — I’m Hope Edelman, the bestselling author of Motherless Daughters and the new book, The AfterGrief.

I was 17 when my mother, Marcia, died after a long struggle with breast cancer. Like most families in the 1980s, mine didn’t know how to grieve — so we basically didn’t do it at all. Three months later, I told myself that I’d “gotten over” the loss. I convinced myself that I had my whole future ahead of me.

But, of course, that wasn’t true at all. 

Because — even though I told myself I’d moved on — that early loss kept showing up in new and different ways over the years. When I graduated from high school. When I started my first job. When I got married. When my daughters were born. When I reached and then passed my mother’s age at time of death. When I went through a divorce.

If you’ve lost a mother, father, sibling, partner, or close friend when you were young… does this sound familiar?

We haven’t had a name for the ripple effects of a long-ago loss, or for the part that lingers.

Until now. It’s the aftergrief. 

The aftergrief is the part of loss that begins when the most painful moments of adjustment recede, and extends for the rest of your life.

Does this mean we grieve forever? No. It means we experience long periods of calm that are punctuated by grief spikes when we miss a loved one.

It means that the hard edges of a loss will soften over time. But the longing never completely goes away.

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We don’t ever ‘get over’ the death of a loved one.

But we do eventually ‘get on‘ with living in a world without this essential person by our side.

It takes time to learn how to live in this new world. It takes time.”

HOPE EDELMAN

For decades, we’ve been told this is evidence of unresolved grief. I don’t believe that’s true.

I believe that it’s evidence of the love we still feel. I believe that we can find ways to carry that love, and our deceased loved ones, forward with us in ways that feel empowering instead of upsetting.

If you have a long-ago loss that still affects you, you are not alone.

There are millions of others who’ve been touched by early loss. Many of us have kept quiet because we don’t want to be judged. To be told we should be “over it” by now. Or that there’s something wrong with us because we haven’t “moved on.”

The Aftergrief Online Program is a 4-week, live experience that will both validate and normalize what you’ve been feeling for so long. It will offer you a new framework for understanding how early loss has shaped your responses, your choices, and your world view.

Most of all, you’ll meet others who understand this, because they’ve experienced it, too.

For more than 25 years, I’ve been listening closely to thousands of stories of loss, love, and growth.

When I began talking to survivors of early loss, everyone I interviewed had their own story, but the themes were very similar, such as:

  • The messages we received at the time of loss were unhelpful or just plain wrong.
  • Grief can make it feel like a piece of us is stuck in the past.
  • We yearn to stay connected with loved ones, but don’t know how.
  • We want to talk with others who understand and share our specific hopes, doubts, and fears.

These themes resonate for so many of us, but the old culture of grief still persists, making us think we are voiceless.

This is why my team and I have created the live, 4‑module online program.

We want to introduce the community to a new way of thinking about loss, to validate your experience — you didn’t do grief wrong! — and to help you get unstuck, all within a virtual community of like-minded others.

The program includes material that couldn’t fit in The Aftergrief, so this is the only place you can find it.

PLUS, we have special guests for Modules 2, 3 & 4!

In this program, you’ll discover:

  • How the effects of early loss can echo over the lifespan.
  • When, how, and why feelings of longing and sadness are likely to recur.
  • Why discussions about what’s “normal” can make adjustment harder.
  • How revising the past is critical to feeling more connected and whole in the future.

Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with Hope and find out more about the aftergrief

For just $97 you’ll receive:

  • Access to the four program modules. You’re invited to attend them live — and if you can’t, you’ll always receive a link to the recording to watch at your leisure later. Each presentation is 30‑minutes long.
  • An additional 30-minute, live Q&A session each week — ask me questions in real time!
  • An optional 30 minutes of group discussion time at the end of each session. I log off so you can get to know each other informally, but I leave a trained moderator in charge to help in case anyone has technical issues or questions that need my attention.
  • Access to The Aftergrief Community Facebook page: a place where you can share your story, ask questions, give and receive support, and forge new friendships.
  • Invitations to additional events, opportunities, giveaways, and discounts as part of my online community.

Module 1: Introducing The Aftergrief (Nov. 1st @ 4 pm PT)

In my experience, people only care about two stages of grief: The one where you feel really bad, and the one where you feel better. That second phase is the aftergrief. Historically, it’s been an overlooked and under-appreciated part of the long-term process. In this module, we’ll explore what the long arc of loss typically looks like, and validate the variety of experiences people are likely to face, especially when a loss occurs during our younger years. You’ll emerge from this hour with a solid understanding of why you feel what you’ve been feeling for so many years.

Module 2: Three Kinds of Grief: New, Old, and New Old (Nov. 8th @ 4 pm PT)

My research breaks grief down into three categories: New Grief, Old Grief, and New Old Grief. Old Grief and New Old Grief are hallmarks of the aftergrief. This module explains what both of those are, going deeper than the book did into discussions of each one. We’ll explore how to prepare for events that are likely to cause a flare-up, and also how to cope when we’re taken by surprise. We’ll also talk about the importance of ritual and discuss how we can build meaningful ones of our own. 

Module 3: The Five Aspects of Grief (Nov. 15th @ 4 pm PT)

A holistic approach to grief involves five aspects: Emotional, Mental, Spiritual, Physical, and Social. It’s rare for all of these aspects to be addressed at the time of loss. Fortunately, it’s never too late to fill in the gaps. This module examines each category, reviews its importance, and offers tips attending to each aspect of grief in the present.This module can help you feel less “stuck.”

Module 4: The Aftergrief Mindset (Nov. 22nd @ 4 pm PT)

An Aftergrief Mindset involves revisiting, reassessing, and reframing our stories of loss. That doesn’t mean I encourage or require you to let go of your original story. Instead, I’ll ask you to consider alternative, equally true versions that can be carried side by side. Through a combination of questions, activities, and interactive exercises, this module will help you cultivate meaning, purpose and personal growth. You’ll walk away from Module 4 with Aftergrief tools you can continue to use in the future.

Don’t miss this opportunity to connect with Hope and find out more about the aftergrief

LIVE OUTSIDE THE US?

We are committed to our worldwide community. Please contact us to inquire for a discount if you live in an area of the world where the currency exchange leaves you at a disadvantage.

REFUND POLICY:
  • Get a full refund if you aren’t satisfied after Module 1.
  • The full refund is available to anyone who watches Module 1 and participates in the chat for the first Q & A. We believe that once you start, you’ll want to walk this journey with us for its entirety (and hopefully meet in person one day)!
  • If  you’re not completely satisfied, just email us after Module 1 and before Module 2 to receive your full refund: melissa@hopeedelman.com
  • Once Module 2 begins, there will be no refunds.